Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a modern form of CBT. It is distinguished by its relational approach to thoughts and emotions , rather than simply modifying them. ACT encourages acceptance of difficult internal experiences and engagement in actions guided by personal values , in order to foster a rich, meaningful, and psychologically flexible life.
While traditional CBT focuses on changing the content of thoughts , ACT focuses on how we interact with our thoughts and emotions , enabling us to live fully despite difficulties.
🌱 The basics of ACT
It is based on two central ideas:
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- Acceptance : Making space for difficult thoughts and emotions instead of fighting them.
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- Commitment : Acting on your values, even when you are uncomfortable.
🔑 The six central processes of ACT
They are often presented as a “hexaflex” model (a six-point diagram). Together, they promote what is called psychological flexibility, the ability to remain present, open, and engaged in life.
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- Cognitive Defusion
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- Learn to “step back” from your thoughts rather than getting bogged down in them.
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- Example: Instead of thinking “I am worthless,” say “I notice my mind is telling me I am worthless.”
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- Cognitive Defusion
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- Acceptance
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- Allow feelings and sensations to exist without resistance.
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- Example: making space for anxiety rather than pushing it away.
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- Acceptance
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- Mindfulness / Presence in the present moment
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- Pay attention to what is happening here and now, rather than staying stuck in the past or the future.
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- Mindfulness / Presence in the present moment
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- Self-as-Context
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- Cultivate the awareness that you are not your thoughts or emotions, but the container in which they occur.
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- An observer’s perspective.
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- Self-as-Context
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- Values
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- Clarify what really matters to you. The qualities you want to embody, not just goals.
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- Example: valuing compassion, honesty or creativity.
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- Values
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- Action taken
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- Take concrete actions guided by your values, even if difficult emotions arise.
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- Example: Calling a friend despite social anxiety, because connection is a value.
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- Action taken
🌊 A metaphor
ACT uses many metaphors. One of the classics is “The Passengers on the Bus” :
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- Imagine you are the driver of a bus (your life), and in the back are noisy passengers (your thoughts and emotions). Some shout scary or discouraging things. If you fight them or stop, they control your direction. But if you continue to drive toward your values, they may stay there, but they do not direct your life.
What is ACT used for ?
ACT is supported by a wealth of evidence for a variety of issues, including:
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- Anxiety
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- Depression
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- OCD
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- Trauma
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- Chronic pain
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- Stress at work
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- General well-being and resilience
It is also used in coaching, sports psychology and even in organizations.
✨ The Spirit of ACT
Unlike therapies that focus on symptom reduction, ACT emphasizes living a rich and meaningful life and trusting that when you live according to your values, distress can soften accordingly.
🧩 ACT Practice Exercise: “Leaves on a Stream” (Cognitive Disidentification)
This exercise helps create space between you and your thoughts:
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- Refocus
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- Sit comfortably.
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- Take a slow breath in… and out.
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- Refocus
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- Imagine a stream
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- Visualize a gentle stream flowing past you.
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- Leaves float on its surface.
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- Imagine a stream
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- Notice your thoughts
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- When thoughts appear, place each one on a leaf and let it float.
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- If a new thought appears, place it on another sheet.
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- Notice your thoughts
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- No need to push back
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- Some leaves may get stuck or come back. This is normal. Notice them and let them go.
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- No need to push back
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- Come back to the stream
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- If you get carried away by a thought, gently bring your attention back to the image of the stream and the leaves.
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- Come back to the stream
🌱 After a minute or two…
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- Did you feel a space between “you” and your thoughts?
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- Were some thoughts harder to let go?
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- How does this compare to your habit of letting your thoughts carry you away?
🧩 ACT Exercise: “Expansion” (Acceptance)
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- Connect to your body
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- Close your eyes if you want.
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- Take a slow breath, noticing the rise and fall of your chest.
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- Connect to your body
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- Notice an emotion
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- Think of a situation that triggers a mild uncomfortable feeling (not your worst pain, just something manageable).
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- Notice where this manifests in your body: tension, heaviness, heat, tingling?
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- Notice an emotion
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- Breathe into it
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- Instead of pushing the sensation away, imagine sending your breath into that area.
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- With each breath, gently make “space” around the sensation.
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- Breathe into it
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- Create space
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- Imagine the sensation as an object (energy ball, cloud, knot).
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- See if you can let it be, without trying to change it.
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- Create space
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- Offer kindness
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- Place a hand gently on the area, as if comforting a friend.
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- Tell yourself, “It’s OK, it’s here for now.”
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- Offer kindness
🌊 Reflection
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- How did it feel to make space for the sensation rather than resist it?
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- Has there been a slight change in approaching it with openness?
🧩 ACT Exercise: Discover your values
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- Imagine a future reflection
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- Visualize yourself at the end of a long and meaningful life.
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- Imagine what people who know you well would say about you: what you stand for, how you treat others, the kind of person you are.
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- Imagine a future reflection
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- Listen to the qualities
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- What do you hope they say about you?
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- Were you loving, courageous, honest, curious, compassionate, creative?
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- Listen to the qualities
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- Score 3–5 words
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- Choose the qualities that seem most alive or important to you right now.
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- Example: kindness, integrity, curiosity, growth, connection.
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- Score 3–5 words
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- Bring it into the present
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- Think of one small action you can take today or this week that reflects one of these values.
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- Example: If you value connection, send a sincere message to a friend. If you value growth, learn something new for 10 minutes.
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- Bring it into the present
🌱 Reflection
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- What values did you note?
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- Is there one that is particularly important to honor now?
🌟 ACT Daily Routine (5–10 minutes)
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- Grounding and Mindfulness (1–2 min)
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- Sit comfortably with your feet on the floor.
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- Take 3 deep breaths, notice the rise and fall of your chest.
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- Pay attention to the present moment: sounds, sensations, sight.
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- Grounding and Mindfulness (1–2 min)
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- Cognitive disidentification (1–2 min)
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- Choose a thought or worry.
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- Imagine it on a leaf floating on a stream.
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- Notice it without trying to change it, create space.
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- Cognitive disidentification (1–2 min)
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- Acceptance / Expansion (1–2 min)
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- Notice an emotion present in your body.
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- Breathe into it, make room for the feeling.
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- Optional: Place a hand on the area and say “It’s OK, it’s there.”
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- Acceptance / Expansion (1–2 min)
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- Checking values (1–2 min)
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- Remember one of your key values.
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- Ask yourself: “How can I live this value today, even a little?”
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- Identify a concrete action to take today.
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- Checking values (1–2 min)
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- Action taken (1–2 min)
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- Choose an action and commit to doing it.
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- Accept that uncomfortable thoughts or emotions may arise and move forward regardless.
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- Visualize yourself performing this action with openness and intention.
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- Action taken (1–2 min)
🌱 Optional reflection (1 min)
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- Did you perform the action?
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- How does it feel in body and mind?
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- Did you learn anything about your values or yourself?
💡 Key Tip : Even 5 minutes a day creates a habit of psychological flexibility. Over time, thoughts and emotions lose their power to control your life, while your values guide your choices.
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