Loving yourself doesn’t mean thinking you’re perfect or deluding yourself with positive phrases repeated mechanically. Self-love isn’t a facade to display, but an inner journey to take. It’s learning to look at yourself with kindness, even in moments of doubt, and to recognize your own value regardless of successes, failures, or the way others see you. Loving yourself means accepting your strengths but also your flaws, contradictions, and dark areas, understanding that they are an integral part of your humanity. It’s giving yourself permission to be imperfect, to fall and get back up, to search, evolve, and welcome yourself as you are, here and now.
Below you will find a process that will help you in your relationship with yourself and which will subsequently allow you to love yourself.
Self-understanding to love yourself
- Become aware of your internal dialogues : identify when you criticize yourself, and learn to gradually replace these judgments with more caring words.
- Recognize your needs and limits : allow yourself to say no, to rest, to ask for help.
Relationship with oneself
- Practice self-gratitude : write down one small thing you have done each day that you are proud of, however small.
- Talk to yourself like a friend : You would rarely tell someone close to you that they are useless, why do it with yourself?
Taking care of yourself to love yourself
- Invest in your well-being : sleep, food, movement, breathing. These are concrete acts of love.
- Create moments just for you : reading, walking, drawing, cooking, whatever time you are your own priority.
Looking at one’s place in the world
- Detach yourself from comparison : everyone moves forward at their own pace, with their own challenges and strengths.
- Value what you bring to others : a smile, a listening ear, a gesture. Your presence matters.
💡Loving yourself isn’t an instant click, but a daily practice. Like a relationship with another person, self-love is built little by little.
Below is a daily ritual (5–10 minutes) you can try to begin cultivating self-love:
🌅 The « me with me » ritual
(to be done in the morning or evening, depending on your pace)
1. Breathing (1 min)
Close your eyes, take 3 deep breaths. Feel your body, settle into the moment.
2. A gentle word (1 min)
Choose a kind sentence about yourself. For example:
- « I’m doing my best today. »
- “I deserve kindness and respect.”
- “My existence has value.”
Repeat it softly, letting it sink into you.
3. Gratitude to you (2 min)
Write down or think about one thing you’re proud of today (even if it’s tiny: smiling at someone, tidying up a corner of your room, resting when you needed to).
4. Small gesture of love (2–5 min)
Do something that makes you feel good, even if it’s just a short while:
- stretch your body,
- drink a glass of water mindfully,
- listen to a song you like,
- gently massage your hands or face.
5. Closing (30 sec)
Whisper a « thank you » to yourself. Like you would thank a friend who is with you every day.
This ritual is short, but repeated every day it acts like a seed that grows within you.
Above all, remember that self-love is not a destination but a path, a living relationship that is built day after day. It requires patience, kindness, and gentle perseverance. Accepting yourself every day as you are, with your strengths and weaknesses, is already an act of profound love. Don’t be too hard on yourself: take it one step at a time, and remember that like any beautiful relationship, the one you have with yourself needs time, care, and tenderness to grow.
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